Contrary to popular belief, keeping your partnership or marriage happy is actually quite easy – introducing small changes and positive behaviours into your relationship is what will make it even better. While many relationship experts in Singapore say that you should focus on fixing what’s wrong, some research show that incorporating positive behaviours to a relationship has a greater impact on a couple’s happiness. With that in mind, we listed down some easy ways on how you can deepen your bond with your partner and be a happier couple.
- Perform Random Acts of Kindness
Doing small gestures that say “I’m thinking of you” are essential to keep your relationship bond strong – e.g. filling up her tank with gas or brewing him coffee in the morning. Hand holding and sending midday love emails are also small ways of showing affection. Research also shows that performing small gestures frequently has a greater impact on couple happiness compared with grand, but less frequent gestures.
- Grow and Change Together
Just like you, your relationship is something that needs nourishment to develop and grow – and that best way to nurture it well is to infuse it with change. Introducing change into a relationship is believed to be a key factor to couple happiness. These changes can be small, but it should break your routine. You can take a leave from work and do something fun together, such as visiting a nearby museum or tourist spot. You can also try something new like going on a meditation retreat or taking a water-skiing class together.
- Get to Know Each Other’s Family and Friends
A research found that men, in particular, are happier when their partner has a good relationship with his family and friends. Also, couples who accept and make an effort to know each other’s friends are said to be happier than couples with separate friends and family lives.
- Keep Everything Light
To prevent your relationship from slipping into a rut, you need to get the right balance between the rational aspect and the fun parts. You need to do certain things to keep your life in order and your relationship secure, but you shouldn’t forget to play as well. Rediscover the delight of watching silly movies, playing a game or dragging her onto the dance floor.
- Find a Good Way to Communicate
Learning how to communicate in a healthy way is what will keep your relationship thriving. This means not just asking your partner what he or she needs, but also telling him or her what you need. It means knowing what stressors are rearing in your partner’s life, as well as learning how to fight fair – no shaming or name calling.
Practising positive behaviours and incorporating small changes in your relationship is what will help in making it better. So be sure to use the aforementioned tips to help you further deepen your bond with your significant other and become a happier couple.
22 Aug 2016