If people were given a choice, no one would like to sign up for a long distance relationship. To be apart from someone you love is hard and so does the responsibility of making it work. It entails huge investment to keep a functional, healthy and exciting relationship. There is always this void that you need to fill in but can never be satisfied unless both parties made a firm commitment to make it happen. But, millions of couples dare to love from a distance and brave themselves against long and cold nights.
Truth be told, there is something special about the psychological drama people feel when someone is leaving. Its idea can likely be contextualized to that of wanting something you cannot have or the anticipation of almost having it. In turn, it creates a sense of excitement and stronger passion towards the person who lives across the globe. If you were in romantic relationship with someone who lives just at the next door, would you still feel the same crazy, burning and powerful passion? Would you go out of your way to physically express what you feel? No. And that is one key element which makes LDR so special, it is that progression of strong emotions and suppressed physical contact that ignites intense attraction.
Moreover, there is more to LDR than what critics usually think, it allows two people to grow, together and separately, in ways that normal relationships (geographically speaking) sometimes, do not teach us:
You appreciate the value of your partner
When you are literally far from your loved one, you appreciate not only their presence when they are around but also the meaning and value they add to your life. You get to clearly picture out what life would be like when they are not around. From there, you get a whole idea whether or not you can afford to live without them.
You have more time to reflect where you want to take things
Unlike in typical relationships, people who are in a long distance commitment often have the time to evaluate and figure out where they would like things to go. There is something unique about being apart because each individual gets a “me” time to think and ask, “why am I holding on in spite of the difficulties?,” “what am I fighting for?,” “where do I want this relationship to go?” In short, the purpose and end goal behind all the investment is laid out. On the other hand, living close with your partner usually make people live in the moment and not so much of what’s ahead because of the comfort of having each other all the time.
It teaches you to become self-sufficient
At the end of the day, couples are still individuals who need to grow their emotional and intellectual muscle. When you are in an LDR, you learn to live every aspect of your life without having to depend on someone all the time. You become that person who enjoys life in spite of being away from your partner, goes after what makes you happy and better being whose life do not solely revolve around your partner’s. For that reason, nothing can be more attractive than having someone like that who can complement your already-wonderful life.
Forever is possible
If both people made a choice to be together one sweet day and want it enough, nothing is impossible. All the struggles, pain and anxieties will surely pay off. When you will finally be together, you will realize that all the wait and tears will lead you to the most blissful time where you walk down the aisle and say I do to forever.
08 Feb 2017