Why You Shouldn’t Give Up on a Long Distance Relationship

 

If people were given a choice, no one would like to sign up for a long distance relationship.  To be apart from someone you love is hard and so does the responsibility of making it work. It entails huge investment to keep a functional, healthy and exciting relationship. There is always this void that you need to fill in but can never be satisfied unless both parties made a firm commitment to make it happen. But, millions of couples dare to love from a distance and brave themselves against long and cold nights.

Truth be told, there is something special about the psychological drama people feel when someone is leaving. Its idea can likely be contextualized to that of wanting something you cannot have or the anticipation of almost having it. In turn, it creates a sense of excitement and stronger passion towards the person who lives across the globe. If you were in romantic relationship with someone who lives just at the next door, would you still feel the same crazy, burning and powerful passion? Would you go out of your way to physically express what you feel? No. And that is one key element which makes LDR so special, it is that progression of strong emotions and suppressed physical contact that ignites intense attraction.

Moreover, there is more to LDR than what critics usually think, it allows two people to grow, together and separately, in ways that normal relationships (geographically speaking) sometimes, do not teach us:

You appreciate the value of your partner

When you are literally far from your loved one, you appreciate not only their presence when they are around but also the meaning and value they add to your life. You get to clearly picture out what life would be like when they are not around. From there, you get a whole idea whether or not you can afford to live without them.

You have more time to reflect where you want to take things

Unlike in typical relationships, people who are in a long distance commitment often have the time to evaluate and figure out where they would like things to go. There is something unique about being apart because each individual gets a “me” time to think and ask, “why am I holding on in spite of the difficulties?,” “what am I fighting for?,” “where do I want this relationship to go?” In short, the purpose and end goal behind all the investment is laid out. On the other hand, living close with your partner usually make people live in the moment and not so much of what’s ahead because of the comfort of having each other all the time.

It teaches you to become self-sufficient

At the end of the day, couples are still individuals who need to grow their emotional and intellectual muscle. When you are in an LDR, you learn to live every aspect of your life without having to depend on someone all the time. You become that person who enjoys life in spite of being away from your partner, goes after what makes you happy and better being whose life do not solely revolve around your partner’s. For that reason, nothing can be more attractive than having someone like that who can complement your already-wonderful life.

Forever is possible

If both people made a choice to be together one sweet day and want it enough, nothing is impossible. All the struggles, pain and anxieties will surely pay off. When you will finally be together, you will realize that all the wait and tears will lead you to the most blissful time where you walk down the aisle and say I do to forever.

08 Feb 2017

Easy Ways to Improve Your Relationship Bond

 

Contrary to popular belief, keeping your partnership or marriage happy is actually quite easy – introducing small changes and positive behaviours into your relationship is what will make it even better. While many relationship experts in Singapore say that you should focus on fixing what’s wrong, some research show that incorporating positive behaviours to a relationship has a greater impact on a couple’s happiness. With that in mind, we listed down some easy ways on how you can deepen your bond with your partner and be a happier couple.

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  1. Perform Random Acts of Kindness

Doing small gestures that say “I’m thinking of you” are essential to keep your relationship bond strong – e.g. filling up her tank with gas or brewing him coffee in the morning. Hand holding and sending midday love emails are also small ways of showing affection. Research also shows that performing small gestures frequently has a greater impact on couple happiness compared with grand, but less frequent gestures.

  1. Grow and Change Together

Just like you, your relationship is something that needs nourishment to develop and grow – and that best way to nurture it well is to infuse it with change. Introducing change into a relationship is believed to be a key factor to couple happiness. These changes can be small, but it should break your routine. You can take a leave from work and do something fun together, such as visiting a nearby museum or tourist spot. You can also try something new like going on a meditation retreat or taking a water-skiing class together.

  1. Get to Know Each Other’s Family and Friends

A research found that men, in particular, are happier when their partner has a good relationship with his family and friends. Also, couples who accept and make an effort to know each other’s friends are said to be happier than couples with separate friends and family lives.

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  1. Keep Everything Light

To prevent your relationship from slipping into a rut, you need to get the right balance between the rational aspect and the fun parts. You need to do certain things to keep your life in order and your relationship secure, but you shouldn’t forget to play as well. Rediscover the delight of watching silly movies, playing a game or dragging her onto the dance floor.

  1. Find a Good Way to Communicate

Learning how to communicate in a healthy way is what will keep your relationship thriving. This means not just asking your partner what he or she needs, but also telling him or her what you need. It means knowing what stressors are rearing in your partner’s life, as well as learning how to fight fair – no shaming or name calling.

Practising positive behaviours and incorporating small changes in your relationship is what will help in making it better. So be sure to use the aforementioned tips to help you further deepen your bond with your significant other and become a happier couple.ip

22 Aug 2016